I noticed that whenever a woman gets criticized for her existence, it almost always comes down to what she looks like. I noticed this from personal experience, and also incidents in society. The most recent one I can think of is a compilation of fat conservative men criticizing Michelle Obama that she needs to lose weight. I was particularly disgusted at the comment that she didn’t resemble the models in the swimsuit edition of Sports Illustrated. She’s a successful politician, and an intelligent educated woman, why should it even matter what she looks like? Not to mention she’s clearly a fit and in shape woman. It’s sad because it seems like women are still validated based on what they look like even if she’s an engineer, or a teacher, or a writer, or a politician etc - people who are not paid for what they look like! It’s kinda pathetic I find that whenever I have a disagreement with someone on the internet, people will resort to some lame argument like “you’re wrong because you’re fat and need to lose weight” “you’re wrong because you’re ugly”, rather than actually trying to make a logical statement about the conflict in question. And I’ve definitely heard “you’re ugly” instead of “you’re stupid/uneducated” a thousand times more, and I can’t help but feel like it would be the opposite if I was a male. Luckily I was never taught that looks were important growing up. In fact from the age of 6 probably, my mom even told me work hard in school and get a good job and never depend on a man, since I’m not attractive enough to be a gold digger! (I love my mom btw). It’s just funny now that I think of it, and I’m pretty happy that I grew up this way.
Anyways, I just want to say yeah I post pictures of myself here. Does that mean I’m self obsessed? No I don’t think I’m really pretty or anything at all. I just feel that I should feel free to post whatever I want on my blog regardless of what I look like, as should anyone else. I remember reading about how Mindy Kaling talked about how people are always surprised at her confidence because she’s not a supermodel type beauty. Somehow a woman shouldn’t be allowed to feel good about herself if she doesn’t have a certain look, even if she’s extremely accomplished in other (more important) aspects of her life! I definitely care a lot about what I look like now that I work in a business environment, and try to look presentable everyday, but that’s not something I’m proud of. Just like if I go to work looking like a mess some days, I don’t feel like that’s something I should feel ashamed of, as long as I can still do my job, and be a good person to those around me, I feel good about myself, and I encourage anyone else to feel positively about themselves as well.